THE FEEL GOOD FACTOR
It is only natural that we all want to feel good and be happy. However, if we want genuine and lasting happiness, we need to use our power of discrimination to know what’s good for us. Forget recreational drugs, even the sugar and coffee that innocently sits on the shelves of your kitchen will give you a high. We become happy for a few minutes, until the power of that drug wears off.
Shopping, relationships, tobacco, travel, can all be addictive in their own way, and make us feel relaxed and happy for a short time. Like any addiction, it makes us a slave, and slaves are not masters of their own destinies.
Here are some things that can make us feel good, but which come with a warning label attached!
Praise can make us feel good... in fact very good. But if we get egotistical today then we can become deflated tomorrow or the next day when the desired or expected praise doesn’t come. Remember the old adage that ‘Pride comes before a fall’! Instead of letting praise go to our heads use praise as a stepping stone to happiness by giving it to others.
Try praising someone today and see what you get in return. Of course, it needs to be genuine and from the heart. You will uplift the others and also trigger the Feel-Good factor within yourself. Moreover enthusiasm, positivity and kindness bubble up within you and this is a dynamite recipe for lasting happiness within your own self.
Being of service to others:
No matter how sad or mad we may be feeling, being of service to others can bring the greatest joy. When we step away from our own selfishness and do something for others, it takes us away from our own negativity and brings feelings of satisfaction. However, if we are doing ‘good deeds’ with smugness and a feeling of ‘look at me, I’m so good!’ then this is an indication that we are not really giving, instead we are taking. Then, if the receiver of my ‘good efforts’ is not grateful, our happiness may quickly turn to resentment!
Improving the Self:
When we take time to look after ourselves and develop our mind and spirit, when we have the aim always to better ourselves for our own satisfaction and for the benefit of others, then happiness naturally develops. But if we only develop our mind and not our spirit, we run the risk of becoming a know-it-all without heart. Likewise, if we only work hard to look after our physical appearance or develop our bodies to a state of near perfection, but do not work to uncover the beauty of the soul, we are 100% destined for sorrow.
I m sure we all feel happiest when we are in control of ourselves. But self-control needs to be natural. Forcing, suppressing or doing things out of compulsion are not a happy solution. So as much as possible, align your thoughts to your words and your speech. This creates integrity, self-respect and ultimately true happiness.
We at Brahama Kumaris centres have helped millions to find what’s good for them and for the betterment of the humanity as a whole. When you visit the centre and become part of the bigger plan of the almighty, you will know your real purpose of existence. You can learn to let go ego, anger and greed for materialistic possessions by simply learning and practicing ‘Easy RajYoga Meditation.’ RajYoga meditation is the right tool to cleanse your soul and mind from all the clutter that corrupts them. Don’t work only on your body but also your soul and mind because that is the only Feel Good Factor which will last forever and ever.